Journal 6

1.) The confidentiality code was violated when the child care center had the his records transferred without talking to the mom first.

2.) The confidentiality code was violated when the teacher was talking to the other teacher about the child that she had no business knowing about. Also when the teacher told the other parents about his biting.

 3.) I don't think there should have been a discussion between the directors without the mom's permission. Sometimes it is good to get a fresh start. The director prepared the staff and the staff prepared the other parents of his biting which singled him out, which is not fair. I think the director should have discussed things with the mother first and then if she needed more information ask to call the previous center. It sets him up for failure if all he has done follows him and he is "punished" for it. 

4.) The mother, director, and whoever is caring for Eric should have been in the meeting. and maybe even just a meeting with the director and mother first, then include the teacher.

 5.) I do think a conversation with Eric's classmates would have helped. Eric's condition was unknown to the other children and if the children knew the back story maybe they would have been nicer to him. The teacher is the facilitator in how the other children treat Eric. She is the model.

 6.) Some methods that would have eased Eric's transition would have been talking to him about the rules and maybe weaning him away from elmo instead of just saying no or even telling him why he couldn't have elmo. Same for the sandwich his mom made, he wanted it because his mom made it and losing his dad, his mom is all he has. I know it is because of the peanut butter he couldn't have it, but if you were to explain why he couldn't have the sandwich because it could make someone sick if they are allergic to it would have made things different.

 7.) I feel the teachers conversation at the restaurant was very inappropriate. You should never talk about a child in a negative way like that especially in a public place where people can hear because you never know who is sitting next to you and knows the child. That mother now has a very negative perspective of the teachers.

 8.) If the conversation would have happened in the staff lounge it would have been much different. It is a way of venting and letting things out but only if it is in a positive way and will help you care for the child better.

 9.) The director is the culpret of the whole situation. Had she talked to the mother first and then had a meeting with the teachers and with Eric and gotten the story from them things would have been much different! We want to be a positive light for these children and none of the teachers or directors were being a light. I know she ment well but it back fired. The way things were presented put him in a negative view before he even had a chance to show them who he was.

 10.) I personally wouldn't leave my child at the school. You went behind my back and obtained records I didn't want you to have and wanted a fresh start and this center took that away from my son. No he is labeled the biter, the teacher didn't prepare him for what the rules are, and didn't prepare her class for my son's differences. The teachers seam to not care about their children and only want to gossip, in a public place at that!